Aspects of divorce that may come as a surprise

Many Maryland couples who decide to end their marriage fall into the habit of viewing the change solely in a negative light. While it is undeniable that there are losses that come with a divorce, there are also many positive aspects of this transition that are often overlooked. Spouses who are able to focus on these positive outcomes may be able to move through the process with less stress and a deeper sense of calm than those who choose to focus exclusively on the downsides.

One thing that many spouses fail to realize until many years after they divorce is that they have the power to control their attitude surrounding the end of their marriage. As individuals, we make a choice to either step boldly into the future or remain mired in the past. As some say, we choose to be either bitter or better. While this choice is often not a conscious decision, spouses who take the time to think about how they want to move on are often able to avoid falling into negative thought patterns as they near the end of their marriage.

Another aspect of divorce that many spouses fail to recognize until years later is that they should have filed long before they did. Many people put off filing for divorce for years, trying everything they can think of to try to save their marriage. In some cases, however, no amount of effort is sufficient to heal a marital divide. For these spouses, the faster they are able to move toward transitioning into life as a single person, the better off they are in the long run.

When considering filing for divorce, it is imperative that Maryland spouses make an effort to focus on the positive aspects of the process. Becoming stuck in the past or focusing on the mistakes made during the marriage can only lengthen the time needed to get past a divorce and move forward to future happiness. Understanding that divorce can be a positive change in one’s life can go a long way toward easing the stress of the end of a marriage.

Source: Huffington Post, 14 Things No One Tells You About Divorce, No author, Nov. 11, 2013

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